Humanistic approach: Existentialist, Person-Centered & Gestalt Therapy

This blog is part of the series for my reflections on studying different therapy theories. For any citing or quotation, please email nicoyu.w@gmail.com If the existential theory is the wise-old-man, who has seen it all, done it all, and share his experience in the philosophical, and sometimes abstract ways, Person-centered therapy is everyone’s best friend — who always encourage, support, and believe in you before you believe in yourself. Both therapeutic approaches are less strategic, organized, or directional, but believing that every person can achieve their best version of self; the internal imbalance comes from the unmatched reality and their ideal version. Both therapeutic approaches suggest that the quality of the therapist-client relationship is key to successful therapy. However, these two theories also share a limitation: both theories emphasize less on technique and strategy. As a beginning therapist, I would imagine that these two approaches become challenging to apply in a real therapeutic session without years of experience in life and work.

On the other hand, Gestalt Therapy provides a similar philosophical background with more structured techniques. Gestalt Therapeutic approach holds the belief that clients know themselves the best, and therapists’ job is to provide the environment and guidance to increase clients’ self-awareness. Similar to Person-Centered therapy, Gestalt therapy also emphasize on the authentic self; the more authentic an individual is to his- or herself, the less stress or anxiety the individual would experience. In other words, by increasing self-awareness and self-acceptance, therapists can help clients to face and solve their problems. This theory also emphasizes on assessing individuals in the holistic view, including thoughts, feelings, behaviors, interactions with environments (field theory and contact), body language, and dreams (Corey, 2017, p. 201). Resistance to Contacts is the phenomena Gestalt therapists describe the disturbance occurs when an individual interacts with the environment (Corey, 2017, p. 202), which is similar to the defense mechanism in Psychoanalytic theory. My friends and colleagues always describe me as patient, empathetic, and non-judgemental, and the go-to person for any questions. When I exam the style of our conversations, many characteristics of humanistic therapy applied naturally: empathetic, holism (recent sickness, sleeping issue, or relationship with other people), and mild confrontations (“why not try this?” “what is your concern for not doing this?”); also, I rarely give any direction but encourage them to figure out answers by themselves. I agree with the fundamental idea that people can only achieve internal congruence by being more aware of the self and the present, and the idea that we are only victims of our own and change can only happen with self-acceptance. Also, by blending the confrontation and other techniques in Gestalt Therapy, it will overcome the limitation of too non-directional and lose focus in Person-Center Therapy for a new beginning therapist. However, when assessing multicultural clients, some methods in Gestalt Therapy have to be applied cautiously. For example, confrontation is not natural in some cultures and considered rude. To package the same question in the culturally acceptable way is one thing Gestalt Therapists should have in mind. The other example is the “It” talk. In some cultures, for instance, Taiwanese and Japanese, when a person uses too many “I” in a sentence are culturally disapproved; hence it will be awkward to force the patient from these cultural backgrounds to replace “It” to “I.” To summarize, both existential and humanistic approaches are focused on the positivity and possibility of every individual naturally equipped. The role of the therapist is to assist clients in increasing self-awareness and self-acceptance, hence, to achieve their potential. Moreover, the holism concept in Gestalt Therapy closed the mind-body gap, which allows therapists and clients to see and understand themselves as a complete organism. Even with a few limitations, I firmly believe the humanistic approach is a good and positive method in counseling, which not only providing the tool for clients to follow but also empowers them. References Corey, G. (2017). /Theory and Practice of Counseling and Psychotherapy: Student Manual (10th edition)./ Boston: Cengage Learning

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打破情感操縱的模式(三)情感勒索

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打破情感操縱的模式(二)PUA

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你知道自己可能正在被身邊親近的人操縱嗎?了解煤氣燈、PUA還有情緒勒索。 在現實生活中,人們可能會遇到各種心理操縱手段,例如煤氣燈效應(Gaslighting)、戀愛技巧(Pick-up Artist,縮寫為PUA)和情感勒索(Emotional blackmail)。在本文中,我們將簡要介紹這三種心理操縱手段,以幫助你更好地認識和應對這些情況。 煤氣燈效應 煤氣燈效應是一種心理操縱手段,通過使受害者懷疑自己的感知、記憶和現實感來獲得控制權。煤氣燈效應這一術語起源於1944年的電影《煤氣燈》(Gaslight),該電影講述了一名男子試圖使他的妻子懷疑自己的心智健康,以控制她的財產。 煤氣燈效應的施加者的目標:煤氣燈效應的主要目的是讓受害者對自己的感受、記憶和判斷產生懷疑,從而使操作者獲得更多的控制力。 煤氣燈效應通常表現為否定受害者的經歷、故意製造混亂、否認承諾或事實、轉移責任、故意隱瞞或歪曲信息等手法。 受到煤氣燈效應操縱的人可能會感到焦慮、疑惑、自我懷疑,甚至可能對自己的精神健康產生擔憂。長期受到煤氣燈效應操縱的人可能出現自尊心降低、抑鬱、焦慮等心理健康問題。 煤氣

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